What hairstyle should I use for my thick hair?

First, I’ll start by saying that I have thick hair. I blow dry it and use a straightening iron to reduce the thickness some. I have had the same hair style for years now. Normally I just get my hair cut up to my shoulders and get the sides cut into my face. I like the lenght where my hair lays on my shoulders. I talked to my hairstylist about getting layers, but she said that layers will only make my hair look buffy since it is so thick. However, I am really wanting something new to do with it. I saw a pic on one of my friends’ myspace page the other day of a friend of his and I loved the way the girls hair was cut. However, I don’t quiet know how to describe it to my stylist. Do any of you know what it is when the ends of your hair kinda turn out but not a complet flip outward. I am thinking that maybe you can actually get it cut to turn out some without having to do it with an iron everyday. This is kinda what I am talking about but not the exact style I want
https://www.totalhair.net/hair-styles/gallery-photos/Hairstyles/Layered/5/2727/hairstyles.html

Does anyone have any other pics that may be helpful or any advice.